Speaker: JOSEPHINE

Hi everyone, welcome to the Love to Live Healthy Show. My name is Josephine Fitzpatrick. Today’s episode is small wins. Small wins are possibly one of the most important aspects of progress, motivation and confidence in our lives that are so overlooked. The reality is that they are the most important building blocks of moving forward. Now, you know, you have heard the popular saying Rome wasn’t built overnight. Well, that is a saying for a reason because you have to start somewhere and you have to build on it for it to become something amazing. Everything usually starts with a plan and then, from the plan, we prepare what we are going to do and when we follow it through we start to see those results. Most of the time they are small results, but even the smallest results should give you that motivation that you are in the right direction. And what’s important is we have to remember these small results are the many steps that build resilience and character. It’s not the achievement itself. The achievement doesn’t just show up overnight. It’s the steps of all the small results that get you to that one big success.

01:07

I always tell clients set up small goals to get to the big goal. If you want to be 120, but you’re starting at 170, your big goal is to lose 50 pounds and end up at the 120, right, but your first short-term goal is to get out of the 170s, then get out of the 160s and so on, and then we can take it even one step more and say even smaller goals that help you get from the 170 to 160s is the weight loss you see each week, and whether it’s a half a pound or one pound, both are moving you to the right direction of getting to your short-term goal. That will ultimately get you to your big goal. So, if we recap it, all your small wins are what brings you the biggest success. But the irony in it all is that a lot of people feel silly when they acknowledge something small like a half a pound. We tend to rank small losses as not as impactful or important, and the reality is that small wins matter a lot more than you think. I see this with clients all the time, and it’s usually when I post someone’s big 30 pound, 40 pound or 50 pound loss that I have to explain to people they averaged one pound a week, which in the moment sounds like nothing.

02:21

Think about it You’re dieting all week and you’re so hungry and you only lose a pound, so it feels so frustrating, but this is when we have to remember to celebrate it and embrace it and remember that one pound is the building block to weight loss. We always want it off right away. Who wants to put that awful, dreaded work in? Just like any success in your life, really think about it. Regardless of what you want to achieve, it will never happen overnight. You have to put consistent work in, day after day, and whether you’re climbing up the ladder at work or you own your own business, or you’re starting a relationship or a family, it’s always work, and not just for one day, it’s over and over, and that is how we progress. That is how we build something great.

03:16

So weight loss is no different. You have to start with a pound and then another pound and you keep building on those pounds. That’s how you get to your success. And of course, like I said in the beginning, it’s going to feel so difficult because you feel like you have so much more to go. But like other successes, it’s going to be a lot of work in the beginning for a very little payoff, but that is only in the beginning. And then, all of a sudden, the days add up, the weeks add up, the pounds add up and you look back and say, wow, one pound a week, but I’m already at 10 pounds, and now it’s another five, so now I’m at 15 pounds and you just keep building on those pounds and that’s when the big payoff comes in, and that’s how you get to your success. That is how you get to where you want to be and that is how you get to live your best life, because there is no other way to do it.

04:07

And I think most of what I’m saying to you right now, deep down, you already know. You have to wonder where the issue is. Why can’t you do this? Well, for most of you, not only can you do it, but you have been doing it. And if you listen to our podcast or see the text on our social media, you have seen and heard the most amazing numbers that people have lost over the summer alone 20, 30, 40, 50 pounds and so on. And they all started with small weekly wins.

04:38

And for those of you who are struggling, I will tell you how they did it. Yes, of course, they followed their menu and they stayed on their program, but it was their mindset that really got them through the week and through the challenge. You can’t let your mindset keep you stuck. You know, I’ve said it before we live in a world of temptation. There’s fast food on every corner and every commercial and we are social, and for many it feels impossible to be social and not go out and overindulge in food and alcohol, and maybe it’s in fear of what others will say, or maybe it’s just fear of missing out and enjoying what’s in front of you. But that is the kind of mindset that will keep you stuck.

05:20

Some of you might relate to this; Are you focusing on what you didn’t eat and not on what you did eat? I can’t tell you how many times a client will tell me about all the food that they didn’t eat, that was in front of them, maybe at home or at a party, or all the food they used to eat that they didn’t eat that week. How could I only lose a pound? And I have to explain. First of all, you can’t focus on what you didn’t eat. You only have to focus on what you did eat. Okay, because you weren’t supposed to be eating those other things anyway. So when you stopped eating those foods, you no longer gained and you didn’t maintain either. You actually lost and that’s because you changed how you are eating.

06:00

So you have to celebrate the small win. Stop feeling like, oh, I missed out or I didn’t eat what I used to eat. Well, you weren’t supposed to be and that’s why you were gaining. So celebrate the small wins and keep building and putting that time in and it will pay off. One pound, it’s already paying off. You see how important it is to keep that mindset positive. If you don’t keep it positive, you will keep yourself stuck where you are or you will self-sabotage and just lose and gain the same weight over and over again.

06:31

It’s the mindset that you need to work on. You need to go into weight loss thinking I’m going to take this one day at a time, one week at a time, and that is how you will build those small wins. And, like I said earlier, yes, in the beginning it’s always harder because, listen, you’re eating so much less than you used to and you are hungry and it takes a while for you to shrink your appetite and shrink your stomach. So you’re hungry and you can easily have a negative mindset where you just want the weight off, so you just want to eat again. . But you can’t do that because even when you do get your weight off, you’re not going to go back to your old habits and overeat again. But you won’t even want to because once your stomach and your appetite shrink, you’re not going to have those feelings to do that. And that’s where you’re at right now.

07:18

What works is when you’re losing one pound a week and you shrink your appetite and you shrink your stomach. And when you lose those 10 pounds and 15 pounds, whether you’re at your goal weight or not, what you’re going to realize is you don’t want to overeat, you have shrunk your appetite, you’ve shrunk your stomach and you don’t have those feelings of I need to get this weight off right away because I want to go eat. You don’t have those feelings anymore, they’re gone, and that is what I hear from clients most of all that they love. Yes, it’s hard to deal with losing one pound a week, but what’s great is, after you get those 10 pounds, those 15 pounds off, you all of a sudden don’t have that urge to overeat. You’ve realized I can do this forever because I’ve shrunk my appetite, I shrunk my stomach. I’ve learned how to go out and order on program when it’s not my cheat meal or when I’m not going off program.

08:15

What you also do learn is you feel so much better before you even reach your goal, because you’re learning how to live a healthy life, how to live in balance, how to live in a healthy mindset and how to feel good and not have that hunger over you all the time. Okay, and you can only do that by shrinking your appetite and shrinking your stomach. You have to keep it positive and you have to embrace that by shrinking your appetite and shrinking your stomach. You have to keep it positive and you have to embrace the hunger in the beginning and know that one pound a week, you’re building something amazing. You’re building the body you always wanted from the inside out. You’re working on your mind, your body, your appetite. You’re shrinking your stomach. You’re working on your overall mental and physical health and and if you believe that and embrace that and you know that that one pound is what is going to get you there, well, that is when you will stop self-sabotaging, that is when you will start building, day after day and week after week, into the person you want to be. And you won’t only start building Once you get there. Once you get to your goal, you will have learned how to stay there. And that’s what’s so important.

09:19

You see clients that are with me. They’re with me forever because they keep the weight off. Yes, of course they may fluctuate a pound or two here or there, or even five pounds, but they get it off and they stay because they’ve learned, they’ve shrunk their appetite, they’ve shrunk their stomach and they know how to do this without medication, without drugs, without injections. And I’m not saying that’s bad, everyone has their own thing and I don’t judge anyone. But I will tell you, when you go off the medication, when you go off the injections, you’re going to have that hunger because you have not learned how to shrink your appetite, how to be in that healthy mindset and how to shrink your stomach. And you have to learn mindset before anything. That’s what helps you not only lose the weight but keep it off.

10:08

If I had to give you any advice, I would say go into your health and weight loss journey without a timetable. Go into it day one and follow what you are supposed to be following and build on that day with another great day. Remind yourself how you want to look and feel and that each small win is going to get you there. I know you can do it. I believe in you. Believe in yourself and you will get to where you want to be.

And that’s all I have for you today. Celebrate the small wins in your life. They mean more than you think. I hope everyone has the most amazing week. Hugs and love from me to all of you.

~Love to Live Healthy with Josephine Fitzpatrick

JOSEPHINE

Hi everyone, welcome to the Love to Live Healthy show. I’m Josephine Fitzpatrick. Today I have a very special guest, elizabeth Zagetti. She lives in Miami now. She used to live in New York and she moved to Miami, I believe, after the pandemic, but she has been on program for a little over seven years. We have spoken every day through text with her journey and it’s been just nothing but exciting. I love her. She’s like family to me now. But the funny thing is is I have not seen her in a little over seven years. Of course she sends me pictures, so I see her that way, and of course I’m talking to her every day. We text each other, but I have not seen her literally like in person, over Zoom or in my office and since she was here a little over seven years ago. So I’m very excited myself, but I’m so happy and excited for you to hear her journey that she has been on with me. So let’s bring her in and we can start there you are, yes. 

ELISABETA

Hello, hi. Oh my God, how are you? It’s so good to see you In so long. I know in seven years. Oh, my God, that’s amazing. It’s been seven years. I think it was March 31st when I went to you in 2017. 

JOSEPHINE

Wow, oh my gosh, I know Unbelievable. You look gorgeous. 

ELISABETA

Thank you, so do you.

JOSEPHINE 

Thank you. I always see your pictures, but you look so beautiful in person, so I’m very excited for all the clients to hear your story. They love listening to it because it gives them inspiration that other people do this and go through the same things. I really want them to hear your journey Like from when you started. I know you had lost weight, but then you gained some back, right, yes, with menopause and everything, and honestly you look so young to be even through menopause. And now you got back to your amazing, amazing numbers. 

ELISABETA

Well, actually, I would have never thought that I would be a hundred pounds ever again in my life. The last time I weighed a hundred pounds, I think I was 18 or 19 years old. And I mean my goal weight. Well, let’s start from the beginning. When I went to you in 2017, I weighed 139 pounds and I look completely different, as you can see. I don’t know if you remember

JOSEPHINE

Oh, I totally remember. 

ELISABETA

Anyway, and a friend recommended you and it took me about two months to actually make the commitment to call and make the appointment, because I think people in general are afraid of change. They don’t know what to expect. So I finally decided, I said, okay, I’m just going to make the appointment. And I went to see you and it was so easy, so easy. I remember you asking me questions about foods and what I like to eat, and then you created the menu, and once I started and I made that commitment, I couldn’t believe it worked. I said okay this is crazy how fast, because I’ve tried everything, I mean you name it, I’ve tried shakes and Atkins, I tried every diet. 

You know, my whole life I was, you know, struggling with weight and those diets work, but for a short period of time and you a little , but then you gain more back. You gain back more than you lost. Because once you start eating again you realize you don’t know how to eat the right way which now I know because you have taught me.

You know this is why in my text I always tell you that you’re like family to me now, because we have been communicating on a daily basis for seven years and you have supported me and and you have changed my life. Because your program I don’t consider a diet, it’s a lifestyle change and it has taught me so much on how to be disciplined and how to um, to to not give in to temptation and peer pressure. You know, I have people who tell me, oh, you know, you’re so skinny now so you can afford to go out and and have a few drinks on a Saturday, and I said, no, it’s not my cheat day. So no, I’m not, I’m not going to do it, unless it’s a wedding or something which I always let you know if there’s a special occasion, and I let you know, in advance, 

So, yes, I did lose weight when I first went to you and I remember how excited I was because when you see the scale on a weekly basis going down, you know, and as the months went on and I was like 20 pounds down, I was like, oh, my God, I would have never thought that I could lose so much weight and feel so happy. And the reason this works for me is because I don’t feel deprived, because I know I have that cheat day, you know, on Sunday, when I can eat something I’ve been craving all week, um, and I have to tell you in the beginning, on my cheat day, I used to overdo it, but I don’t anymore. I don’t because, , you know, like when you first start, you feel like, oh my God, this is my only day. You know when I can eat the kitchen sink. You know everything I find. But then, as the years went, you know, went by, I realized that no, I don’t want to eat like that because I don’t want to feel like that, because then the next day I feel awful. But so, yes, when I went to you in 2017, I did lose weight and I was very excited. 

But then Covid happened and I was working from home and even though I I tried and I did, I really did. I kind of was on program, but I wasn’t, you know. So I did gain some weight back again and then I had to make that decision one more time. Like that’s it no more you have to stay on program. So I lost again. You know, once I eat clean, no more cheating, because you know, I watch every single video that you put on on instagram, and now you have the, the youtube, and you always say everything counts. Even a morsel of food counts. It’ll affect your weight, and it really does. So I made that decision and once I I made that decision in my head and I’m very focused, I, I lose immediately. 

JOSEPHINE

We have spoken throughout the whole seven years, I think almost every day, 

ELIZABETA

yeah, every day, yeah, 

JOSEPHINE

and I can literally see it in your text when you are like 100% back on

ELIZABETA

So after that in 2021, in May, we moved to Florida and I don’t know what happened, because it happened so fast. We made the decision in January and I was here in May, and not that I went to hell, because Florida is beautiful and it’s you know healthy and sunny, but it was a huge change and honestly, it didn’t feel like home for a long time and, even though I ate on program during the day, what I did was at night I would, I would pick on my chocolate covered raisins and I don’t know. 

I was just I don’t know if I was a little bit depressed, I really don’t know, but I gained again and so I had to buy bigger clothes. And then, in September of 2021, I again, I made the decision. I said, no, I don’t like myself, I’m not doing this for anyone, I’m doing this for myself, you know, because I need to like what I see in the mirror and I need to feel good in my my own skin. So then you told me about the Keto version of the program. And I said I want to do that. 

And when you told me about the five-hour fast, I was like, wow, this is really awesome and, and I can do it. I mean, people ask me how do you not eat after 2 o’clock until the next day 9 o’clock? I said, easy, I’m not hungry. I’m not hungry because my mind is trained, it’s amazing. Just, you know, I’m so invested in it and I really want it so badly and I’ve been keeping this weight off now for two years and I’m in full menopause, it’s unbelievable I would have never thought I could do it. And of course you know sometimes I go up and down one or two pounds from the menopause and hormones.

JOSEPHINE

Yes that will always happens those one to two pounds flexibility. We all need that. Especially through menopause. That is all hormonal, and water weight your numbers are always 1-2 lbs usually 98 to 100, But we know 100 is your top and 98 is your low so as long as you are within those numbers you are at your happy place. 

ELISABETA

Exactly, yeah right, exactly, I’m so very happy and you really changed my life and I really, even though I’m at my goal weight, you know I still need your support on a daily basis. I still, because for me and I can’t speak for other people, but I need to be held accountable. . So you’re almost like my teacher and I’m handing my homework on Sunday. So it keeps me on track, because I know that even if, let’s say, one night I have like a craving for something, I’m like, oh no, no, because Sunday is your weigh-in and I want to make Josephine proud of me, I want to be proud of myself. So, no instead I have a glass of water, go to sleep and I know Sunday will be here in two or three days, whatever it is, and so I need to have you as my coach, and as my therapist. 

Yes, that’s why I always tell you I will never leave. You know I will never leave because life changes, you know things happen and I will always need your support and your expertise. And you know you’re so knowledgeable. You know so much about menopause and how the body works and how weight loss happens. You know you encourage me and you let me know, It’s okay, if you gain a pound this week, you will lose it next week. And when I see that, then I say to myself okay, don’t beat yourself up, there’s always next week. You’re going to do better, it’s going to be okay. 

JOSPEPHINE 

You are amazing, and you have been so amazing, especially since you have been through so many changes. You really have, I mean like think about it, even from when you started so many years ago, you did great, then you went through COVID, then the big move that was a big deal. You never gave up, even when there were times when you were going through the changes and menopause, You never gave up.

ELISABETA

Yes, yes, and I will never give up. 

JOSEPHINE

I think of when you first walked in my office, I mean, and that was seven years ago and I have to tell you, You were a completely different person.

ELISABETA

Yeah, I was a completely different person. I was not happy because nothing worked and now I am so happy now. You know, I’m confident and, like I said, I’m not doing this for attention or for anyone. You know I’m doing this for myself, because getting older you know it sucks, like you know, as a women it’s really hard. , I think we are all struggling. I know for me at least sometimes, when I say, oh, I’m 52, I’m gonna be 53, it’s like even hard to say it, but it’s reality. And you know, like I said I’m in full menopause. It’s unbelievable I remember just being 30. 

And I remember when I was 30 looking at women in full menopause and they were extremely heavy and that’s another reason why I am so grateful that I started this and I tell people who try to lose weight you know, don’t do the shakes and the you know all these fad diets, they don’t work. You need to change your lifestyle. And I always refer them to you because it works. It works.

When you learn to eat with your new lifestyle I tell them I’m never hungry, I’m not deprived, I’m very healthy. I just had blood work done, a full panel. You know everything is normal, you know. So I’m not deficient in anything. I eat very healthy and you know, I just eat less. 

JOSEPHINE

I love so many things that you said because one I feel like so many people going through menopause they think like that’s it, like I’m I’m done, and they could never look like you. I mean it’s just so inspiring for so many people you don’t even know. Listen, you’re at your lowest weight, I mean since you’ve been 18 and you’re in full blown Menopause, I mean that tells you right there, like what you’re capable of if you change your mindset. You know you have to change your mindset. It’s always about the mindset.

ELISABETA

Yeah, yes, yes, and, like I said, don’t look at it as a diet. This is a lifestyle change and it’s a healthy one. I feel like I have more energy, I sleep better, because, you know, because I don’t go to bed bloated, you know, and I just I love it. I truly, truly love this program. I love your support. You are my friend, you know you’re like family to me and just you know you’re so encouraging and inspiring and I don’t know what I would do without you. So when I say that you changed my life and I’ve said this many many times to you in my text messages it’s the truth. You have changed my life. Because, yes, I’ve seen many women who give up when they’re in menopause, and you know they gain a lot of weight and they don’t know what to do, and I’m very grateful that you know that I look and feel like this. 

JOSEPHINE

Oh my gosh, I’m so happy for you. There’s no better feeling. But I wanted to say one thing, because I do ask everyone this Do you exercise? Have you exercised? 

ELISABETA

Yes, Yes, I do, Well, because I lost, you know, a lot of weight. I, I became very very thin. So I started to do my own weight training. Just, you know, push up squat sit ups, 

JOSEPHINE

You lost your weight first, and then you started incorporating the exercise after you lost the weight right,?

ELISABETA

Yes, exactly. And since I’ve been doing them, it’s been about close to a year now that I’ve been doing all the exercises, and, my whole body, looks different. You know my sister and my mom they’re my biggest supporters and they’re telling me like, wow, now, now you look fit and healthy, you look great. You know like you lost all that weight. And now even though you still weigh the same, but now you have a shape. You know like my legs are toned. You know my butt, my stomach, my arms.

JOSEPHINE

Yes I can see your arms look great 

ELISABETA

Thank you, Yes, so I just do my own thing, I don’t I don’t need a trainer, I just do my own workout and of course eating on program and not cheating, and you know, and drinking my water. So, my skin looks nice and hydrated, I drink a lot of water. And I follow everything that you tell me and it really works and I highly highly recommend it to anyone who wants to live a healthy lifestyle 

JOSEPHINE

I literally cannot wait for people to see your before and after, you actually looked older when I first met you 7 years ago 

ELISABETA

I know It’s unbelievable. It makes me so happy but I know not everyone understands. I have a friend who tells me oh, you know, just accept your curves. And I said, but you don’t understand. You know, that’s you. You can accept your curves and I respect that. But to me I’ve always been thin, small, like when I was younger, you know, in my 20s, I’ve always been a petite girl and and I know that’s when I feel good, I want to feel good about myself. This is how I think and that’s what makes me happy. If you want to embrace your curves that’s on you if that is what makes you happy. But being petite and small is what makes me happy. you know this is what makes me happy. You know fitting in a size 2, I bought a size 24 pair of jeans and I’m so so proud of myself. 

 I was like, oh my god 24. Like, oh my god, I’m like so excited, so excited it just gives me joy, you know, because, like I I think I’ve said this to you before there’s so many things in this life that we have no control over, right, like you know, loved ones getting sick or passing away, or my little doggy passing away, but what I put in my mouth I have control over that’s. That’s the only control I have.

JOSEPHINE

I love that, and I preach it and I agree a hundred percent, an I do think that you really live that and that’s one of the things I love that you do. And I say this to people, because I always see the ones who have the best results. They really live the program, they know they’re in control, they live it, you know, and that’s what makes the difference. They don’t just do it, they live it. 

ELISABETA

Yes, I live it, yes, and and I wake up every day and, and I know I start eating at nine and I know I have that window between nine and two and I’m good, I really am. I’m not hungry after two o’clock and I get my nutrients in. I drink water, you know, of course, I drink water even after two o’clock, but that’s it. 

I just drink water and I’m not hungry. I’m very satisfied, I’m very happy and, like I said, I sleep better and I wake up in the morning. I’m not bloated, I feel light, I feel great, yeah, and putting clothes on, you know it just feels amazing.

JOSEPHINE

Yes I know that’s a great feeling. 

ELISABEA

And you know when I look in the mirror I like what I see. And it’s nice because of course, people at work notice when I started losing weight and you know it’s nice to get compliments, of course, but I really do it for myself. Because it makes me feel good.

ELISABETA

So I told you I will never leave. You can’t, you can’t, get rid of me. I’m staying with you forever because I really, I truly need your support. So that’s how I feel about it. 

JOSEPHINE

That’s amazing. Thank you so much you are amazing. 

ELISABETA

Truly, you are such a blessing. I am so grateful to the person who referred me to you because you have changed my life. I swear you really did, even though I’ve had some hiccups in the seven years, but for the past two years, thank God, I’ve been doing great and I am determined to continue on this path and not let anything you know get in the way. I thank you for being you, for your knowledge, for your expertise, for your all your support. I’m so grateful, thank you. You’re so kind and and your words of encouragement. You know they stay with me and and they they motivate me everyday. 

So I want I want to say thank you so much. I love you so much. 

JOSEPHINE

I love you. I’m so happy, thank you.

Thank you! Thank you so much, Elisabeta. That was amazing. You are so inspiring. I know the clients and the customers are just going to love listening to your story. 

Everyone struggles as we get older and you know, I think you have proven that, just because you’re going through menopause, just because you’re in your 50s, you can still be and look the way you want to. The way that makes you feel the best, by doing the right things and following. And, yes, sometimes it’s hard and you will have hiccups, but you can get through it and you’ve proved that and I’m so proud of you. Don’t ever give up. That is a great message for everyone. Do not ever give up. It doesn’t matter your age. It doesn’t matter what you’re going through. She is the lowest she’s been since she’s 18 years old and she’s 52 and she has never looked better in her life. 

So so proud of you, Elisabeta, and I’m so happy I got to see you so happy.. So thank you everyone for tuning in. Thank you for all the feedback. I love it, I appreciate it. It makes my day. I’m wishing everyone a happy, healthy week full of love and hugs and kisses from me to all of you. 

~Love to Live Healthy with Josephine Fitzpatrick

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