[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]IT’S TIME TO SHOW UP FOR YOURSELF[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]A client recently asked me how am I always so focused…. While I’m happy I look that way I assure you I’m not. No one can ever be 100% focused 24/7. I have days like everyone else where I think the universe is just off and I feel it — and it throws me off. But when that happens I don’t make excuses of why I should cheat – in fact, when that happens I have learned how important it is to show up for myself. It’s when I don’t look for anyone else to tell me to stay on or go off — I become my own best friend and I tell myself “Josephine stay on your path and push through this you will feel better if you do it than if you don’t do it.” And sometimes I have to repeat it over it and over but while im repeating it im doing it. I explained we all have weak moments but it’s my weakest moments that I know I need to be there for myself. When I am there for myself pushing through it I know it’s only a couple of days until everything clicks again – the universe feels right and I am right back to laser focused. [dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]BECOME YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND: Most of us are very good at supporting family, friends, and loved ones. It’s amazing how we can keep caring about others and forget about taking care of yourself? Ask yourself why are you not there for yourself the way you are for others? Sometimes it’s because we spend so much of our time either on automatic pilot, doing routine things, overworking, or doing things for others, yet, when you need to be there for yourself – 90% of the time you don’t show up. Aren’t you worth showing up for?[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]THE MOST IMPORTANT OPINION IN YOUR LIFE IS YOUR OWN: Think about the vast amount of time you spend in your own company. You wake up with yourself, you spend the day with yourself, and you go to bed with yourself. Whether or not you speak out loud, you will have more chats with yourself than with anybody else. The most important opinion in your life is your own. This is fine, as long as you like yourself. If you don’t, you can probably imagine that the results can be very destructive. Your mind has no choice but to believe what you tell it. So if you think you’ve done a bad job, or that you are not good enough, that’s what you will ultimately believe – regardless of how much praise you might receive from others! The positive opinions of your boss, your friends or your partner, no matter how important they are to you, will not override your own negative one.[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]AVOID THOUGHTS THAT WEAKEN US: So it would make sense to try to avoid thoughts that weaken us, when we consider that our own thoughts are the source of everything that goes on in our lives. If you believe that life is worth living – your thoughts will help make that belief an everyday reality. Alternatively, acting as your own worst critic is guaranteed to make you feel unhappy. [dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]DON’T BE THE PERSON THAT MAKES YOUR OWN LIFE MISERABLE: Does it sound strange, that you could be the person who makes your own life miserable? It’s true, we are emotional beings whose personalities are created by our own self – and our surroundings. This is why im constantly telling you it’s so important to surround yourself with positive people, thoughts, and positive environments.[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]SHOWING UP FOR YOURSELF: Showing up for yourself should be one of your number one priorities to take care of yourself first — starting with your inner minds, souls, and bodies, because it helps you prepare for the day, week and month that you are about to embark upon. For me, I meditate, I pray, I eat right and I exercise – all of these things help me stay laser focused but more importantly they help me be there for myself when I get mentally weak. It’s as if my body knows to take over because it knows the routine. This is when I remind myself “push through it” – and while I’m reminding myself my body is going through the motions it already knows so well. [dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]Here are some tips on how to start showing up for yourself and being your own best friend? [dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]1. Start right now by giving yourself permission to be exactly where you are- it’s okay where you are as long as you know where you want to go. You know yourself better than anyone else so you know what you really want – keep reminding yourself of it. [dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]2. Notice negative self talk, and change it and make it constructive. You know that little voice in your head – the one that tells you that you aren’t good enough, or that you aren’t worthy of your goals. Talk to yourself like you would convince your best friend – I AM WORTH IT. It may sound silly but we forget all the time how easy we put off things that are important to us. If you want to lose weight and feel great – then tell yourself everyday you are worth it – you are worth putting in the work – putting yourself first and believing in yourself that you can do this. Instead of putting it off – make it a priority.[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]3. Think about your relationship with yourself — how you speak to yourself, how you listen to your emotions and how you respond to your needs. Make sure you are kind to yourself, listen to your wants and needs, and motivate and inspire yourself with things that make you happy. This is why I eat right, meditate, I pray, I dance, and I run….. they make me happy and put me in a good place – and this helps me stay focused with everything else in my life. And trust me I don’t always feel like going out for long run – but even when I don’t want to – I do it anyway because I know doing it makes me feel better than not doing it. [dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]4. HAVE A MANTRA – something that you repeat in your head when you are feeling weak minded. I bet you already know mine 🙂 – if you don’t here it is and you are more than welcome to use it
“Doing it makes me feel better than not doing it”[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]5. Treat yourself with kindness and compassion when it comes to listening to your emotions and responding to your needs. Talk to yourself about your own worries, fears and concerns the same way you would talk to a friend. We often tell ourselves things in our own head that we would never say out loud to someone else. We are aloud to make mistakes – but be honest about it. Remember you love yourself unconditionally, you made a mistake or had a hiccup — big deal move on, own it and keep telling yourself you got this, you can do this. Mistakes may slow you down but don’t let them stop you. [dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]I know I say it all the time – the story you tell yourself is the story you will live and it’s the story you will believe. That’s why it’s so important to tell your mind positive things, a positive story, like any best friend would. Remind yourself daily what makes you happy and how you are worth feeling amazing. At the end of the day I want you to remember that the most important thing you can do for yourself in this lifetime is to be there for yourself – show up when you need it and be your own best friend – because you deserve that.[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]IF YOU WANT TO REACH YOUR GOALS
LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO BECOME YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND[dt_sc_hr_invisible_small]
~Love to Live Healthy with Josephine Fitzpatrick
